Lately, its been bothering my spirit in viewing recent posts about how "why men fear love".. Why the heck is always pinned on the man?? How about the woman, Huh?! In immortal words of Col. Potter (MASH 4077) "HORSE HOCKEY!"
Thats such a lamo excuse...
Besides, "FEAR" is a harsh word and I strongly believe that its not true. Thinking on the human scale and Im going to say this as best I can while doing all I can to stay true in Christ to say this.. 7 times out of 10 it IS the woman's fault! Oky girls, you can stop yelling at me and throwing stuff at me.. Done? Oky let me explain as a girl (..and if anybody says "you dont understand..." you're gonna find me at your doorstep with a pillow and a hanky)
Nobody wants to be alone; really..k? So when we as females wanna be with the guy that we're so hung over with, we automatically change our brains in to the mode of .. "I can be with him forever.. wow he's wonderful, cute, all that I want in a guy.."
THEN as this thing between us and the man we're with or even have this crush/connection thing with...
"Well, he's still wonderful, cute, strong, yata, yata.. but this THING "Insert Flaw here:______" needs to go. Oky I think I can "Help" change that in him"..
AND the biggest thing we tend to do is think and project this mindset/energy:
"I have to make this man mine, what can I do to make him mine, to bring out the love I think/feel/know that he has for me? What and/or how can I act, think, be so that he will commit to me?"
Stop right there, yah, we all do this in our minds and spirits... and as we go there in our minds and hearts; our physical, spiritual and emotional energy changes into "Man Catching Mode". Whether we realise it or not; we do this and the men that we are attracted to or with DO pick up on this energy and back off... Thats ONE of many things that cause both men and women to get weird and not fear love, but are AFRAID of failure, AFRIAD of being alone and AFRAID of being hurt and let down again. Not just at love, but at life.
Everyone wants love.. and as humans we will do anything we think is necessary to do to get their favour. Including making them jealous, playing head games of any sort with them, making them want to call you, not answering their phone call.. flat out being bitchy! No man wants that from a girl.. its unbecoming.. really..
Now the Man.. yah Im talking to you....Youre thing is that youre basic. Youre deep alright but different that a woman. Women, oh gawd we dig deep to where we FIND things to be deep about. Going into things that cause us to go crazeee.. to cause drama for our lives when theres no need for it.. But seriously you guys freak out too about almost the same thing...but are more likely not to want to change the girl youre with; just more about adapting and either dealing with her and understanding her, or about telling her where to stick it, and/or not to mention that you feel much more safer in the heart to just have a physical relationship with her. When it gets weird and she gets weird on you by being all "Female"; you hi-tale it out of there.
What it all comes down to is, YOU.. SORT you out first in the heart, spirit, and mind. Ditch all the bad things that you've experienced.. your past hurt and past drama that youre holding on to; is holding you back from being happy... Renew your mind and get outta the mentality of what the world percieves as happy relationships.... Being volitile, being a "reality star" and believing that drama makes happiness, is a load of buffallo bagles...
Change your mentality, change your energy from "I want them" to "How can I let God move through me to be happy inside me, complete within me? God give me love, peace and happiness from You...God how can I help the person Im with be happy, so that we can be happy together?"
Those thoughts and that energy shift MAKES blessings happy. Put behind you the past hurt and grow from it, dont take it into the next person your with..that creates more bull... And all that crap about "theyre just not into you"; is a load... letting the Holy Spirit guide you to fellowship and be happy in all things when it comes to dating; helps you grow, be more happy and see past the jaded energy; leading YOU to your destined Love path..
or, there's always the other option....keep finding an excuse to stay too guarded, create jealousy, be a total cow and try to control the situation thinking that you'll get the person...
choice is yours.. BOTH OF YOU!!
Naturally In love..
Cally--Divine Readings
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